I'm single and in my 30s - why do I feel such INSANE pressure for every aspect of my life to be perfect in the absence of a partner?
(asking for a friend)
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The pressure to ~ overindex ~
(when you’re made to feel like you’re underindexing)
Hi crushes,
This week, I’m really struggling with my chronic fatigue. So, instead of answering one of your questions, I thought I’d go about this newsy a bit differently by unpacking something that’s been running around in my OWN head.
Selfish? Or selfless? You tell me…
I was thinking about it after I saw this video by Tinx on TikTok (an internet angel that champions the single life) about the pressure she feels as a single woman turning up to weddings to have every aspect of her life in order so there’s no apparent reason to blame for the fact that she’s flying solo.
@tinx @tinx ♬ original sound - Tinx
Why is this poignant or relevant? Let me explain…