"How do I find out who I am outside of work and a relationship?"
and sleeping and making dinner and putting the washing out and folding it back up again and sending another email and making my bed and breathing and just being alive?
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Bel! How do I find this thing that I’m searching for? I guess it’s called purpose.
I left my long-term relationship to find what makes me happy…but what is that?
People always ask me, “What do you do outside work?” and my answer is always, “I don’t know.”
I broke up with my ‘perfect’ boyfriend because I felt like needed to find out who I am because it just feels like I’m living to wake up, do things, sleep, and repeat.
Part of me feels as though I shouldn’t have left my ‘perfect’ relationship, but the other part of me feels I need to explore the world, my sexuality, idk — everything! Where do I even start?
Dear a little lost,
Fuck. I so get this feeling. It’s good - it means you’re curious about the world and you want to make yours bigger. If you ignore this feeling, it’ll linger forever like a horny tryst from all those years ago you never properly called it off with.
I’m not a psychic, but sometimes, after two chardonnays or a deep sleep, I do believe I’m having psychic visions. The below is what I think will happen for you if you keep believing in the unknown, forcing yourself to do unimaginable things, and enjoy an entire pop culture platter of references of Marnie from GIRLS.
I’m going a little rogue this week, so bear with me. But I hope it makes you laugh and gives you enough questions to point you in the right direction. Who am I kidding, there is no right. There is just wrong: which is staying where you are when it’s making you feel like you’re stagnating.