MAKE IT MAKE SENSE: I'm jealous of my best friend getting engaged

How do I fill this gaping hole of loneliness?

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Bel. Honestly. Help.

My best friend got engaged tonight, and I’m over the moon for her and her fiance. I love them, but I'm in this weird space where one part of me feels happy for them, but the other can't help but focus on the fact that I have never been romantically involved with anyone in any way.

As much as I've wanted to, it's becoming very real to me that it may never happen. I’ve tried being present and grateful for the platonic loves I have, and I am, but sometimes, it’s really hard to ignore this gaping hole in my life. I know a lot of people have asked this question before, and you've answered it in many ways, but I truly have not felt this level of loneliness before.

Dear lonelygirl24,

Can I just say I know EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL?

Is that annoying or comforting?

I hope the latter.

I get you. And I’m not here to tell you love is around the corner and just to believe and to stop looking because that’s when it happens, that’s when you need to let love in, Jennifer Aniston.

But I am here to make you make sense of this loneliness. And tell you about magic instead.