"So my close friend ghosted me..."
Last month you knew my menstrual cycle, and now you can’t write back to a text about a song we used to like? Who the hell are you!?
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Bel, what do I doooo?
A really close friend has recently started ghosting me. We studied together for a year, and it was an intense, important friendship. But now we live in different cities, don’t see each other as often, and she’s just totally drifted away, even from messaging. It hurts like HELL. How am I meant to manage all these ~ feelings~?
Dear hurting like hell,
In all my days and all my emails, there’s never been a pain that’s matched losing a friend like this. It’s like heartbreak, but in many ways worse because you can’t sit on a balcony somewhere hooning cheap wine with your friends, concepting different bad endings to the stupid little romcom they ruined, plotting your revenge. Instead, you’re like, wait, what? Last month you knew my menstrual cycle, and now you can’t write back to a text about a song we used to like? Who the hell are you!