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Tatiana White's avatar

Wow! This is exactly what I needed today! Passion is read as obsession--or unhealthy obsession, especially among girls. There's so much shame around this that sometimes it does block us from seeing why our identity connects to what we're interested in. Thank you so much for speaking to this and validating so many of my own insecurities. <3

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i love you so much!!!

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Kimmi Gundy's avatar

This is so beautifully written. One Direction impacted our lives in such profound ways. I’m so grateful we grew up in a time where we could fangirl with the most incredible fans + band 🥹

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agreed Kimmi!!! love you xxx

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grace's avatar

ive searched the entirety of substack for a writer like you. i love you.

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oh my GOD what a comment!!!! I LOVE YOU

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fangirls unite !! ily💋

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Abby Gardner's avatar

I have the students in my Media School class at IU reading this incredible post/chapter + excerpts from Kaitlyn Tiffany's book "Everything I Need I Get From You: How Fangirls Created the Internet As We Know It". Ironically or perhaps cosmically, it's what we're discussing this coming week. I've been thinking about you so much the past few days. Through your own grief, you are helping so many others in the fandom process and not feel so alone. What a special gift you have to give. But make sure you're taking care of yourself, too. xAbby

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i love that book too!!!!!! xxxxx

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Jasmine Ye's avatar

1D is the reason I'm a social media manager today - I still mention in all my job interviews that my first social media account was a 1D fan account on Twitter started when I was 13 years old, and I always think about how proud 13 year old me would be of me today, I am living her dream - this is exactly what I need to read today!

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LOVE YOU!!!!

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Birgitte Rasine's avatar

One of the best posts ever! Don't let any ex-influencer-man-agers ever tell you how to do what you do best on your own.

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HELL YEAH!!! love you xxxx

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Birgitte Rasine's avatar

Same! You took one direction and turned it into a multi-level highway 😜😎⚡️

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lizzydorgan's avatar

the way i’m screaming … because i absolutely would have been in the same wellington town crowds in april 2012 IM GONNA HUG YOU SO HARD…. both of you lol

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lizzydorgan's avatar

i can feel my brain going back like those old school poloroid camera lol i think i would have been down courtenay place getting absolutely smashed lol cos i was… (the age between 21 and 23) ahahahahahhaha fuck me

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Kelly's avatar

Your writing is amazing. I'm glad you didn't leave your passion behind, and now you're thriving in this beautiful career. I'm so proud ❤️

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aw! i love you so much this is so sweet!!!

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Paula's avatar

You bloody ROCKING women. My (pre-ordered) copy of MIMS arrived this afternoon and I have inhaled it in one session. It’s an awesome book, just amazing. I’ve now given it to my 22 year-old daughter, she can’t wait to read it and I can’t wait for her to get into it too. It’s the book I WISH I’d had at 22!! Well done to all involved. Brava, brava, brava.

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AW I LOVE YOU

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Sinead McClay's avatar

My copy arrived today and I can't wait to read it

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OH HELL YEAH

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Hannah Banks's avatar

Loved this! Will definitely be ordering the book!

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omg love you!!!

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KT Rocks's avatar

Brilliant

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love you xx

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Erika's avatar

Preordering- this just sold me. 1D is the reason why I work in fandom marketing. I will forever be proud of the skills I gained from being a direction lol

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hell yes angel!!!

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Hazel The Rainbow 🌈's avatar

So much yes 💕 I love SYSCA and I’ve spent my whole life being mocked for my love of Gareth gates, or one d or the latest pop culture thing, it’s exhausting. Thank you for creating a place where I can feel comfortable being interested in both important political issues but also fun pop culture moments that make me smile

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DJ's avatar

Finding out that you were at the infamous Wellington incident…You’re a celebrity ma’am. I have so many questions about that night! Literally still keeps me up at night as a grown woman. I am absolutely hitting the buy button right now, take all my money for this book. I LOVE YOU!

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Trish's avatar

This is such a great post! So validating for a lot of women, including me, who was always dismissed as a “teenybopper” when I got excited about the things I liked as a teenager. Thank you for this!!

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