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Ren's avatar

Your attractions and preferences are 100% valid. Don’t self-abandon. Go with what feels authentic.

To offer a different perspective: I personally avoid saying anything in online profiles that might come across as privileged, elitist, or ableist (like demanding perfect spelling or grammar). It is possible to kindly tell someone that you don’t think you’re compatible with them without risking putting down their dyslexia, trauma, or inability to afford, attend, or excel in school.

For any sapiosexuals: I know that attraction to intellect is a valid orientation. I don’t want to encourage erasure of that. I think there are ways to be both authentic and considerate of the audience when creating profiles.

Good luck in the dating world!

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Robyn's avatar

it should be 'interest in books' instead of taste I think!

Also I find the two truths and a lie so cringe as a concept, it's very pick-me, reeks of just wanting to be asked about these facts in a way that is very off-putting. AS A GENERAL CONCEPT not yours specifically.

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